Motherhood Through the Lens of Attachment Theory
A family friend sent me a link to a recent article in New York Magazine: "Can Attachment Theory Explain All Our Relationships?"
I studied attachment theory in college. Back then, I wondered what kind of mother I might be, and what kind of attachment my children and I would have. Writer Bethany Saltman set out to answer this question for herself and document her findings.
"What began as a quiet inkling that studying attachment might help me understand my vast and varied shortcomings as a mother unfolded into a bona-fide obsession with the entire field of attachment research," she writes.
Saltman also, in reflecting on her own relationship with her mother, explores how styles of attachment can pass down through generations:
"Issues with attachment [get] passed from generation to generation. Because if you had an insecure attachment with your parents, it is likely that you will have a more difficult time creating secure attachments for your own children."